Most EMDR clinicians know the Window of Tolerance diagram. Three zones — hyperarousal, the window, hypoarousal — drawn on a whiteboard or pulled up on a tablet during Phase 2. We explain fight or flight. We explain freeze. We explain that the window is where we're trying to work.

And then we move on.

What I want to talk about is what happens after the diagram.

Here's the thing about EMDR's Phase 3 Assessment questions….

And then we get into clinical practice and realize: the first time a client hears "what words go best with that image that express your negative belief about yourself?

"I just want to work on the trauma. Why do we have to do all this first?"

It's one of the most common questions in EMDR